"Money is a glory"

Well put it this way, my life plays in my dreams.

So I can walk.

Orignally posted in a blog comment at: deMystic's blog
Blog title: Exploring Loving in Multi-dimensions

This is interesting and ties in with what I've been thinking a lot about lately.I'm 27 and have never been in what I would term a 'relationship' (outside of family) where two people are very close emotionally and love each other.Sure I've had 'flings' but the idea of actually forming a relationship with someone has always seemed somewhat alien to me, because it feels like I have to give something of who I am up, but to me that is absolutely out of the question.
I think it goes back to this 'limiting' idea.You see in one recent fling I had, the woman I was seeing admitted to me that she occasionally saw another man, but she promised that she was trying to end it and be with me alone.To be honest because I wasn't emotionally close to this woman and didn't love her, I wasn't emotionally hurt, but the idea of sharing her was an absolute no! no! and so when she failed to end it with the other man I ended it!
However I also didn't want to get close to this woman because of my attitude to relationships.In fact this woman, like any other I've had a fling with, never particularly interested me as a person.I specifically go for people who I know won't want to be with me forever.I got on with them ok, it was nice to spend time with somebody for company, but there certainly wasn't any special emotional connection, and definitely not love! After the physical stuff and having a drink and a laugh it was pretty much boring and empty, and I'd rather be on my own once that was done with.

I feel that their is a paradox and I'm not sure how to work it out.In one way I like the woman I am seeing to be mine alone phsycially, but then on the other hand I don't want to get close to them and form a relationship because I feel that I will then have to conform or make compromises.I watch a tv show where someone helps people find a new home.The person asks the housbuyers for their requirements, but then they always state: "you know often you'll have to make compromises if the house doesn't have everything you want".
When I hear that I think to myself "one should never have to compromise".If you can imagine what you want then it must be possible.I'm such an unlimited person in nature, and I detest the word "compromise".Perhaps though, forming a lasting relationship is kind of like building a new home.At first it may be everything you want, but then maybe you feel like changing the look of the garden or redecorating or adding a conservatory, etc.That's all doable, yet they do take some amount of physical time and work to make those physical changes.In that sense, as people are physical as well, maybe we should accept that we can have everything with one person, but also know as they're physical as well, then it also takes time for them to change.
Yet still it is different, because you can change a garden or redecorate, etc, and that is down to you.The walls or the plants aren't going to object.But with another person, perhaps they won't want to change.If I was with someone in a relationship and we got on really well and enjoyed the same things, then great.But if after a time I really enjoyed doing different things that they didn't enjoy, then would I have to compromise in order to spend time with my partner.That is the key thing.I'm always changing constantly, and so the idea of stopping that flow and compromising is like cutting off my life force.In order for that to never happen, as I've said before, I stay clear of forming relationships and falling in love.It's like to really know and love me me is not to know me completely yet still love me, but perhaps that is too much for some people to deal with.I always think that people want to pin you down, gift wrap you and say "this is my present and I can tell anyone exactly how this present acts and what they like, etc".People tend to get comfortable and not like surprises or change.I guess what I'm getting at is that you can be with one physical person as long as the connection goes much deeper that anything you can label.Essentially it is pure unconditional love.
"I love you, just because I do" is what I want to hear from someone I form a relationship with.And that is also the reason I will give to the person I am in a relationship with.I sleep with someone and generally spend more time with them because I find them physically attractive and we have a lot in common.If that were to change dramatically enough and if it caused distress, then of course splitting up is a possibility, but I will still love them just as much as I love myself and everyone else.I loved them before I met them, so why should I not love them now we have parted.I guess you've just got to give things a go and if they don't work out, then hey, so what!

If we take what I just said and put it into the multi level... (it should be called multi level, not multi dimensional, because for me dimensional means a different approach, and what we're saying here is the same approach (love) to different "levels", ie: levels meaning fo example, level 0: yourself, level 1: your family or partner, level 2: close friends, level 4: acquaintances, level 5: people you know through tv or youtube etc, level 6: people you don't know but who you see in the street, level 7: people you don't know of in any way, etc ) ....loving theme then we can see firstly we must look to how we love at level 0 (ourselves) and then not expect anything more than that from the other levels.If we can do that then we can truly approach all levels with the same degree of love (actually love is just love, it's either love or it isn't).

So let's look at how we love at level 0, ourselves! Firstly we can say that we accept ourselves.If we change our minds about things, it doesn't mean we stop loving who we are.If we find enjoyment is something different than before, we still love ourselves the same.If we have our odd habits or rituals or whatever, we're still cool with ourselves.If we act in a way that is silly, we laugh at ourselves and lovingly accept that we're eccentric.And on and on.So all one has to do is see how they accept themselves in so many ways (make a list as a reminder) and attach that same attitude to all the other levels.When we do this we can more easily have a physical relationship with one person (living together, sex, etc) because that relationship will work if it is mutually based on the love we have for ourselves, which in turn we project to all other levels.Again, love is just love, there isn't one type or another.It is just love! Should keep that in mind!

“Our character is what we do when we think no one is looking.” ~ H. Jackson Brown, Jr

It comes down to not letting any external labels or preconditions cloud things.The highest level and beyond tend not to bother us so much because they're more remote.But as we move down the levels and we come more into contact with people who have the opportunity to affect us with their presence, then when we see them acting eccentricly or oddly, or they think differently than us, we must recall that we accept and love ourselves when we act in that way.Basically, it's my drawn out way of saying: love others as you love yourself.
Thankyou for allowing me the opportunity of gaining greater clarity on this for myself.

Cheers!

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Yeah, my first contribution to the questions and reflections section.Thought I'd start out with a simple one, LOL!

Oh and btw, fellas you're welcome to answer if you dare! Good luck! haha!

PS: What do men want? My answer: See the title!  ;)

Cheers!

PPS: lol, I just realized how this q and r thing works.It seems the higher echelons of consciousness deem it is their duty to be the ones who ask the questions for the herd to answer here at zaadz.Well you'll just have to reach deep into your big hearts and understand when I say: All people on the path to being more conscious all have the equal right to ask conscious questions.Yeah I can submit a question so you can consider whether it is worthy enough.
But I know my question is worthy, I am worthy, I have as much right to exist and ask my questions as anyone else.So I'll just ask it! Please yourself how you deal with that!

                            Take your own breath away.

Originally posted by me at the: Appreciation Society

Check this YouTube video out: What are you thankful for?

This whole pod is dedicated to Appreciating all our blessings.But I just thought I'd start a specific thread where we go along with the spirit of the youtube video and just quickly say, without pondering too much, what we are thankful for.So reply as if that guy had come up to you in the street and asked you what are you thankful for.What would your response be.

Here's mine:

I'm thankful for who I am, truly.
I'm thankful for the people, family and friends in my life.
I'm thankful for the opportunities that I have.
I'm thankful for the internet, the great sites on it and all the connections I have made on it.
I'm thankful for my health and prosperity.

What are you thankful for?

Cheers!

If you like, you can make a reply to this post over at The Appreciation Society, in this thread: What are you thankful for?

Thanks again!

I posted an entry called "Teaching Feels Good" back in March at my zaadz blog.From the responses it got, it certainly seemed to resonate with people.I had a new post in mind, and it reminded my of the old post, so I've decided to call this one "Part deux" lol!
In fact this post is pretty much the same as the first one.However I seem to have even more clarity on this now, so I am expressing it here.

This new post arises from my contemplation on the question of: "Have I gone the long way round? or did I need to do it this way? And if I needed to, then why?"
Don't worry, I will explain all :)
For the past year and a half I have been studying the teachings of Abraham Hicks, who I consider to be the greatest teacher.A year and a half has passed, and only now am I really allowing myself to fully utilize these powerful teachings to create the life I choose in every way.Frustration has been my dominant thought recently, as I have asked myself "why has it taken this long before I am finally making the move to actually create what I want?"
You see Abraham Hicks teach about the "Law of Attraction" and how your thoughts create your reality.They also teach about the Emotional Scale and how depression is very far from bliss, and that anger is an improvement from fear, etc.Abrahams teachings are really for everybody, because they cover such a wide spectrum, giving different processes to practise based on where we are on the emotional scale.

Now looking back I think to myself that I made too much of it, studied their teachings too much.You see I'm a naturally very buoyant person.Of course I can feel depression, and have done, even recently it can strike out of the blue.But it always passes very quickly, as I find that I don't have the strength or can be bothered to keep myself down for too long, lol! And I'll rant and rave when something pees me off, but I'm always laughing along with that too, ie: no real damage is caused.So yeah, virtually all of the time I'm right up there, feeling my natural state of joy.
Since studying Abrahams teachings (and probably before too) I have come into contact with several teachers who also teach about the Law of Attraction and how our thoughts create our reality.
Books such as Wallace D. Wattles "The Science of Getting Rich" and films such as "The Secret" are a couple of examples.I've also heard from individual teachers such as "Michael Losier" whose straight to the point and clear style I really appreciated when listening to him.
When listening to Losier, I would think to myself "This guys cool.He tells us to think about what we do want, and stay focued there.Such a simple style.No going on about emotional scales too much, or depression to fear and all that business."
And when watching the film "The Secret" it didn't really go on about the emotional scale too much.Instead it told us how we get what we focus on, ie: Law of Attraction.
This all resonated with me so much, and it felt so much easier and lighter than Abraham Hicks' style of covering every angle.Films like "The Secret" and people like "Michael Losier" really catered for my need to just know what to do, knowing that I am naturally buoyant anyway, so don't need to get from depression to fear and all that business.

However, having said all that, Abraham Hicks is the one teacher I have always stayed with, and the rest no longer really grab my attention that much, if ever.What I have found is that Abraham certainly does cater for buoyant people, who feel good most of the time.For example, one of their processes is called the "Magical creation box" whereby one just puts pictures of things one desires into a box and then focuses only on that, thus attracting that to them.How simple is that! As simple as the teachings in "The Secret" and Michael Losiers " focus on what you DO! want!"
I could have just stayed there, and attracted what I wanted straight away.A year ago I could have been reaping the benefits.But I didn't, I studied everything about Abraham's teachings.Why? Well because it was there! and so I thought and felt that I should!
Abraham goes beyond just putting things into a magical creation box, or teaching appreciation.They do this because they cater for everyone, because they know that their are some people who are held so far below the surface, who aren't buoyant, and they cannot feel appreciation for anything much.Or people who are in such despairing situations that it would never be enough for them to simply put pictures into a "magical creation box" and then say "there now, that's all sorted!"
As I read more and more into Abrahams teachings, reading processes like "which thought feels better?" and also hearing them talk about how moving from anger into frustration is an improvement, I wondered to myself "do I really need to hear all this? It all seems a bit too much.All these processes and moving up the Emotional Scale.I seem to be drowning in all of this, almost like gasping for air, for relief".

Recently this has been building within me more and more, this very strong desire to understand why I was Attracted to Abraham Hicks and not just to people like Michael Losier or many many other Law of Attraction teachers out there.
Why would a buoyant person such that I am spend so much time concerning myself with understanding processes designed for people who are depressed, or realising that anger is a step up from depression.The answer came to me last night, and reminded me once again of my blog post back in March.It's because:

"Teaching feels good! It really does!"


Contemplating this more, I wondered to myself: "what if I had just known about Law of Attraction? and what if I didn't know about the Emotional Scale and the call of source and everything else Abraham goes into.What would that have been like?"
Well I imagined what I would be like if that were the case.I'd go around getting everything I wanted, because I would know that Law of Attraction gets me everything I want.I focus on what I do want, and being my usual buoyant self, all that needing to feel good to allow ones desires in would be a done deal.
However, imagine what I would become like if only that were the case.For example, I would inevitably come across other people who weren't as naturally buoyant as I am, and I imagine that I would probably have been very impatient with them if they were depressed or frustrated.I'd say things to others like "oh cheer up for pity sake.Don't you know that all you have to do is have pure positive thought to get everything you could ever want".
Now of course having pure positive thought is a good place to be, but for some people that place is impossible to get to straight away from where they currently are.So I can imagine that I would end up upsetting quite a few people with my unsympathetic attitude.

You see, it's all totally selfish!

What I have come to fully realize, and what I was starting to realize in my previous "teaching feels good" post, is that I am just covering my back here, so that I can live a full life as a masterful creator.So in fact where I asked myself previously in this post: ""Have I gone the long way round? or did I need to do it this way? And if I needed to, then why?"
The answer to that is that I haven't really gone the long way round, because all of those teachings, understanding that others may be in different places to me, and knowing how to "react" to others, all of that is of total benefit to me! That time of studying has been of great benefit.
Instead of telling others to simply "cheer up" and thus getting a bad reaction from them, and therefore bringing discontent into my experience.Instead of that, I now know how to handle other people so that they do not interfere with me being me, and I now realize how to help guide them into a better feeling place, to allow them to move through anger and into frustration and onwards.For that reason, and this may be perceived as being conceited (so what!, lol), but for that reason I am exceptionally beneficial to those around me, to all who I meet.And in fact all the evidence from my experience has actually shown that I am only a benefit to those who I've met.
But, and I must come back to this, this is all to my benefit, it's all ultimately selfish.Earlier I mentioned the word "react".And that's how one teaches others, by their reaction to them.It's not about being a martyr devoting ones life to seeking out others and then helping them.It's not about attaching lead weights to the balloon and then unattaching them.It's about knowing how to release those weights when they attach themselves to your balloon.That's why Abraham Hicks says that: "you've got to let Law of Attraction bring your students to you".If you've got no lead weighing down your balloon, then there is no need to react to lead on the balloon is their! But like I said, because we live in a diverse Universe, inevitably lead will attach itself to your balloon.So you've got to react sympathetically in order to remove the lead and allow yourself to continue to soar.
All the teachers, the real teachers, are in fact just reacting to others in the best way that serves themselves.We just know that as "teaching".

And reacting to others in the best way possible (that which others perceive as somebody "teaching") feels good!

Cheers!

Orignally posted in a blog comment at: Oren98's blog
Blog title: NEW UPDATE!!!

“following our dreams regardless of our age, situation or place in the world.”

Yeah, totally!

I remember this news story I heard on the bbc: Chip shop woman, 98, awarded MBE
You know I absolutely love that story.Somebody who is just happy doing what they're doing, loving their daily routine and only considering how they feel about themselves.
It's like we're told:

Oh you must do this in your lifetime,
You're young, you should be doing this,
You should travel more,
Go out and see the world,
You can do better than this for a living,
Blah blah blah!

If you're happy then you're happy.Oren I dig the fact that although you have travelled to many places, you think it's cool that your bro is not travelling and you recognize that his dream (at this time) does not involve physical travelling.That's really cool.
And that's why I really buzz off people like Constance who basically just get on with what they dig doing.I bet she's had a more fulfilled life working in her chip shop than many other people have had doing all those things that other people have told them they should be doing.The evidence is there, in that Constance is 98 and still loves her 'job'.

Oren, your blog post reminded me of two quotes from two of my favourite teachers:

” Without opening your door,
you can know the whole world.
Without looking out your window,
you can understand the way of the Tao.

The more knowledge you seek,
the less you will understand.

The Master understands without leaving,
sees clearly without looking,
accomplishes much without doing anything.” ~ from Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching

I think basically he's saying do your thing! You do your thing and I'll do mine.
Oren travels and makes films, Ronen writes his book from home, but none of you have opened the door.You're still living within yourselves, living your own dreams, just like Constance.”Without opening the door you can know the whole world” is a metaphor for “not living by and being guided by anything else other than the way you feel”.
“Without looking out your window you can understand the way of the Tao” is a metaphor for “not looking out to see what everyone else is doing to understand what you should be doing.”

Another favourite teacher of mine, Abraham Hicks, says something like:

“Maybe you wish to travel, so you get a map out and make marks on all the cities that you wish to visit.But at the end of mapping out your journey, you realise that your final destination is “Home”.But you don't think to yourself “well my final destination is home, and I'm already home, so I guess I'll just stay at home”.You go because of the thrill of the journey, because of the potential to experience things along the way and meet new people, etc”. And when you get back then you start to plan another journey, for the thrill of it!” ~ Abraham Hicks

What I get from all of this is basically that when we go with what feels good then we're living out our lifes intentions.Of course we live in a physical world and we see and hear things, but how we feel about them is what counts, not what we have been led to believe they are “this is good” and this is bad” or “this is a worthy occupation” and “this is a dead end job”.Working in a Chip Shop, Travelling the World, Writing a book from home, all the same thing when it's what each person really wants for themselves, what feels best to them.

“The sage is guided by what he feels and not by what he sees.
He lets go of that and chooses this.” ~ Lao Tzu

Choose this, choose you!

Cheers!